My life is at an all time high! There are too many reasons to be happy and smile! I should be terrified to be so high up here on Cloud 9, because in the past I've fallen off. But I'm not!
How ever in the midst of this joy, annoying shit still happens.
My friend Scott got his mission call. Orlando, FL, Spanish speaking. I guess he really wasn't kidding about our friendship being over because I had to hear bout his call from my sister who is in his ward. My sister also mentioned that Scott's girlfriend (of a ridiculously dramatic 5 years) wanted to talk to me. I was shocked since she had deleted me as a facebook friend on the same night as Scott.
I thought about it, and then added her, again, as a facebook friend.
Here is the conversation that followed:
GF: Hey, I just wanted to let you know that Scott wants to still be your friend, but only if you can respect his views.
ok. so many things wrong with this. ( A) You send your girl friend to be a third party messenger? (B) You are asking me to change something so that you can get what you want? That's not how the world works...
ME: umm... I'm sorry? His views? Like his belief that I chose to be gay?
GF: Yes. Austin, you can't expect others to just accept your views of Homosexuality, and then chose not to respect their views.
ME: Oh, I respect that he has views. But he doesn't really get to have views on what makes me gay, since he himself is NOT gay. I mean who's views are more respectable on the topic of Nuclear Physics? The Nuclear Pysicist? Or the Real Estate Agent's son?
GF: Well I support Scott 100%, so I don't know how we can be friends with your unaccepting attitude.
ME: My unaccepting attitude... GF, do you see that my choices to do what makes me happy hurts NO ONE, while his stuborn, and unproven opinions are extremly hurtful to millions of people?
GF: Austin, I hope you realize you are pushing people away.
ME: Well, actually of all the people that now know the real me, you and scott are the only ones who have chosen to step out of my life.... funny huh...
GF: Goodbye Austin.
ME: yep.
Really? Really? Was I off base? I mean, I have friends that have let me know that they don't support me seeking a marriage with a man. I can be semi-ok with that. I can still talk to those people and love them for who they are. But should I really take back a friend who feels that I would choose to be gay? One that does not want to even hear a glips of one of the biggest parts of my life? One that, I know, in the back of his head is always thinking about how I'm headed straight for hell?
Sunday, May 3, 2009
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ReplyDelete1. When did you get the new hot header pic?!?!
2. Who the fuck is this bitch? Like, seriously? I don't even know what to say. He is not a friend you need, and really, it's clear he and his GF never WERE your friends. You will fill any void left by these two bimbos 100 times over with people who really love and care about you for who you are.
Take care, Austin. I can't wait to meet you at the end of this month.
it's clear scott has no balls, especially if he has to send his gf to talk to you instead of talking to you himself. i would've done what you did.
ReplyDeleteFriends love and support each other. Period. Even IF he thinks your actions aren't in line with his beliefs, that is no reason for such behavior. I have had friends who left the church, or did not go on missions. So what? They are my friends not because of their beliefs, but because they are. I've quoted Brothers & Sisters on other blogs, but it's such a good show it bears repeating: "We don't love the people we love because they're perfect. We love the people we love because they are."
ReplyDeleteThere are so many things wrong with his actions, and I think a few years down the road he is going to look back and think, "ug! how the heck was i such an immature jerk?!"
Wow. You're completely in the right, she and her bf are totally wrong. What a bitch.
ReplyDeletemy .02 cents, he is the closed minded one that isn't being "christ-like" it's hard since he was a close friend but don't let it get to you maybe after 2 years of giving his life to "god" he might learn something... anyway, did I miss something? your going to be around here the end of the month? SWEET... party, I can't wait to see your tat... maybe I'll get one in AK at some bar late at night...? anyway till then...
ReplyDeleteThis guy seems to be a bit hypocritcal here. He only wants to be your friend if you can respect his views, but he doesn't seem to be respecting your views. But, I guess when you know you're right you can't be bothered with meeting someone halfway.
ReplyDeleteWhat a Douche.
ReplyDeleteYou did the right thing, Sounds like for someone about to go on a mission he needs to grow up fast, break his High School Mentality, Getting someone to talk to you for him... Doesn't that end in High School?
You don't need friends like this. Your living a better life without their imput.
And this is the evil bastard in me talking, Odds are his precious girlfriend who supports him 100% will be "Dear John-ing" Him in the next two years :-p
He's a disgrace to his name. :(
ReplyDeleteIf life were like an improvisational film and you could try several takes of the same scene, it would be interesting for your character to say this in response to her first line:
ReplyDelete"Of course I can respect his views. In fact I respect his views to the same degree he respects mine. That's the essence of a good friendship, don't you think? As his girl friend, I can see your relationship with him in the same light. You're bound to have your differences on a few things, but that won't get in the way of your love for each other, because mutual respect is the foundation. Please give him a hug for me. In fact if he's there with you right now, I'd sure like to talk with him."
I guess it's a covert variation of the Swedish reply. "Whatever you wish for me, I wish double the same for you."
Your former friend is a spineless narrow-minded wimp. His girlfriend has more brass than brains, covering up for him like that. If he's lucky she will Dear John him. If not, they will marry and raise more intolerant children and she will wear the pants in the family. And he may someday discover not only that he was wrong to be homophobic but also that he let his GF rob him of his self-respect. Sheesh. Good riddance, I say. And I do feel sorry for them.
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